( Oh - Because i'm nice I will include a link !!
http://peggatypawz.blogspot.co.uk/2016/02/im-fat-whew-whew-yeah-and-my-being-fat.html )
OK - So - Now you have the VERY Basics - as - I could have so gone on forever about symptoms and effects and all sorts - but - The sellotape worked - I kept restrained !!! This was no mean feat I can tell you !!
Now - That is a bloody good Title - Even if I do say so myself - I wanna see loads of views on this - There was 17 in 16 minutes on the one linked above - and that's not bad - Hope it doesn't stop there !! Cor - I do have A LOT to say today - I do feel very very sorry for my postman - who - BEING GORGEOUS, About 30, Tall, Dark and VERY VERY Handsome = and wearing Shorts today ( it's almost in the minus here at the moment ) I did keep him talking about frostbite to his legs ( Did not feel appropriate to go any higher ! ) and how he MUST moisturizer when he gets home, otherwise his poor LEGS would drop off - and - as i like him being my Postie, as he has a lovely smile and a great 'look' - It would greatly sadden me !! I think he likes Chatting with me - as he is always very chatty and always in no hurry to leave - I Did NEARLY offer a coffee - BUT - Felt women who offer Coffee are after one thing - and ALTHOUGH this could have been lovely - I Didn't want him to think i was after that ! Admitting here that i POSSIBLY could have been after that but have FAR TO MANY MORALS, and it was NOT for him to know !! My mother would be proud, but my Bestie would be so ANNOYED AT ME AS HE IS GORGEOUS !!
OK OK - SHUTTING UP AND CARRYING ON !! :
I'M 41 -
SSBBW OBESE &
POSITIVE / CONFIDENT AS HELL
Yup - I know - It's hard to believe - I am 41 - Included is a picture of me aged 2 weeks - and about 7 - n one today !
BE-YOU-TIFUL ! = I KNOW !
and Yes, I am classed as Medically Obese - But - To me - That's just a saying !!
I'm actually not sure if i am SSBBW or BBW - *laughing*
I just think 'I'm Me' - Curvy and Be-YOU-tiful !!
SSBBW - SuperSize Big Beautiful Woman
BBW - Big Beautiful Woman
For those that Don't know !
OK I'm Positive - Because - I KNOW - for a FACT - that there is nothing i can do about it - I can't lose weight and keep it off at the same rate as everyone else, Due to aforementioned in other post, So - Now - Instead of being Miserable, and Depressed ( I have LOADS of other things I can be Miserable and Depressed about instead of that ! - * FacePalm * ! ) I do what I can to be Positive, and FOR ME
Thats
Wearing what I like
Having my Own Unique style
Saying what I feel
Expressing Emotion
Doing what I like to do
Not letting people Upset me through what they say ( They are usually just Uneducated )
Not letting people upset me through what they do ( Once again - Uneducated )
Practice Self - Acceptance = This is the FIRST way to becoming at ONE with yourself !!
If you HATE who you are - and Over-eat - Find your Triggers
Why do you Overeat ??
It may be as simple as ' I love food - So I eat '
AND THIS IS OK - Don't beat yourself up
But - Now ask the question - Is it worth the Fat Shaming ?
If YOU love food more - and are strong in character - then
IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT AND CAN PUT UP WITH THE JIBES AND THE INSULTS - YOU DO IT - AND BE BLOODY PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE - YOU ROCK !!
But - always remember - If Your NOT happy - and want to lose - there are ways to help you - you never have to do it by yourself ! And - Give yourself a pat on the back for at least trying ....
If you Can't lose weight for ANY REASON - Medically, or Mentally or Psychologically then -
COME ON -
DON'T BLAME YOURSELF
YOU HAVE TO GET THROUGH THIS TO BE ABLE TO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE AND THAT'S SURELY WHAT EVERYONE WANTS ?
You have NO CONTROL over medical matters / illness - Mental and Physical - So - STOP RIGHT NOW - YOU HAVE TO LOOSE THIS FEELING TO BE ABLE TO GO FORWARD
- I'm not really shouting at you !!
* Asking you to Please stop Quivering now * )
Things that you start to do will not be thought about by people around and about - they won't notice any difference I bet - BUT YOU WILL ..
Once you start to feel better about yourself - You will start to do it automatically - and then - Others are always drawn to you - and try to almost 'feed' - pardon the pun - off your Uplifting optimism .... This - Well - for me - Is a HUGE part of feeling good about myself - I love to help and make others smile and see what is good about what they have going on in their lives, and Turning Negatives into Positives, Something is bad - But - How good that this didn't happen - because it could have been far far worse - Then - They go away happy - and I have done good ! = So Reinforcing my Positivity and Confidence ! ( OK - With my Brain the way it is - I do sometimes get this totally wrong - and say something totally inappropriate to the wrong person at the wrong time - BUT - Most of my friends 'Know' me - and usually it's funny anyways - so - Be able to laugh at yourself - That's ALWAYS a good trait to have ! )
A few things that i have done to actually help myself in the 'Not Worrying process' - all are easy and don't cost a penny .... It just takes thought !!
DONT LOOK AT THE SCALES = THROW THEM AWAY - Does it matter if you have put on a pound this week - Nope - Makes no difference - I'm still sexy as hell !
LISTEN TO COMPLIMENTS - People Don't say thing's they DON'T mean !
ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS - and to help myself with this, when ( not if ) I get a compliment - I acknowledge it by saying
" I know - But - Thanks for noticing !! " - It makes THEM smile - and then YOU smile !!
WHEN YOU SEE A FAT OR A SKINNY PERSON ( Because obviously this goes for Men as well as Women ) - LOOK AT THEM - WHAT DO YOU LIKE ABOUT THEM ? Thin women are beautiful too !! - Then - if you see someone who is truly Eye Catching to you * Take a real big deep breath * = GO AND TELL THEM ....... - Yup - I do this all the time - But - for me it's automatic now - I have no issues about telling Men, or Women - " OMG That outfit looks fab, Love the color ! - and i just smile and walk off, I have NEVER had a bad reaction from it - and then - I always get a smile !! Just made their day - Because - remember - No-Body else in the whole world may have said that to them - and for a stranger to do it - MEANS A LOT !!
If you hear a Negativity = IGNORE IT -
Who actually cares what the Ignorant / Uneducated Person Thinks He/She will probably have far more insecurities than you - and -
There is NO POINT getting in a debate with them - because they usually have just graduated from the Local 'Lying' School and proceed to tell you your Medical History and how you should be 'curing' yourself or they will preach statistics of the Local Council for the Health Treatment of FAT people in your area !!
Laugh and walk away - That will upset them far far more !
YOU KEEP THE UPPER HAND !
WHEN YOU JIGGLE WHEN YOU WIGGLE -
EMBRACE AND ENJOY ! -
YOUR FAT - OF COURSE YOUR GOING TO WIGGLE
AND OMG - HOW SASSY IS THAT -
CUTE CAPTIVATING CURVES - !!!!
Don't feel the need to pull down/up your Shorts/Top/Dress when sitting - Obviously unless they reveal far too much ! -
Your Gorgeous -
Flaunt your Curves
If your out, and your friend orders a Skinny Latte, BUT - YOU want to have a FULL ON FATTY LATTE = order it
It's up to YOU want you do
I have even had a cashier ask - " Don't YOU want a Skinny Too " - Too which I replied = " Ohhh No Thank YOU ... I DON'T need to Diet "
- She smiled and shouted to the ladies behind her
- " One Skinny and one " NORMAL " Latte please Girls "
I WAS DELIGHTED !!
WHATEVER YOU DO - DON'T USE STUPID WORDS FOR DIFFERENT DAY'S - IE - Green / Red day or Treat Day / Bad day -
NO DAY IS BAD - If YOU feel YOU have eaten too much one day- Then DON'T WORRY = You can do something about it
If you start to think of things as Naughty or 'Treating' yourself
You will crave it !
NEVER USE A SWEET / MEAL / ETC AS A PRIZE FOR DOING SOMETHING - OR AS A GIFT
FOOD IS NEEDED FOR LIVING - so live ! Eat it !
A LITTLE BIT OF SOMETHING DOES YOU GOOD
WHEN YOU WANT !
DO YOU LIKE THAT DRESS YOUR WEARING
THEN BLOODY WEAR IT
If people don't like it - THAT'S THEIR LOOK OUT, not yours !
I have a Bright Neon Long Maxi Dress - that is the same color as a workman's jacket - everyone tells me it's far too bright - a bit see through and totally inappropriate for walking down the high street in - I LOVE IT - So I wear it - and get loads of Compliments - and Workmen asking to borrow it !! - Brilliant - made them smile !!
Hairy legs - Well - For me it's easy = I have very very light color hairs - so - I shave when i can be bothered !!! - and anyways - I like the feel ! = But - I do have to say - If i'm wearing Spaghetti Strap Tops - I do Shave my Pits - But - Only Because I WANT TO - I feel better and I think it is more hygienic !
If YOU WANT TO DO IT - THEN THAT'S FINE - But NEVER be told you HAVE too ! DO IT FOR YOU !
SAME GOES FOR MAKE UP - Wear it if YOU want too - BUT - DON'T FOLLOW THE CROWD !!
Don't get hooked into the Media Stereotype of
DRESS FOR YOUR SHAPE / SIZE
If you can get something in your size - and you like it - YOU WEAR IT
If you like something - but can't get it in your size -
INTERNET SHOPPING - Loads of places will make what you want !!!! NEVER BE PUT OFF !!!!
BLACK IS SLIMMING - YES - BUT - If your not at a Funeral ( and my Funeral is going to be a FUNeral !! )
THEN BE BRIGHT, BOLD, BLAZING, BEAMING & BRILLIANT !!
DON'T erase that Selfie cause you look fat = YOU ARE FAT
Get used to it - People can see your Fat - So
BE WHO YOU ARE - Don't hide - You have nothing to be ashamed of !
Don't be ashamed of Artistic Nudity or a bit of Cleavage !!
There's nothing better for self confidence than getting a lovely photo taken of yourself or by yourself and showing it off to your friends and family
Everyone has a Body - and Everyone should be at ease with it ....... If people don't like seeing it - then - ARE THEY REALLY YOUR FRIENDS - They should embrace your confidence building by Commenting and Supporting you .....
STOP JUDGING OTHERS ON HOW THEY LOOK
There may be a reason why they look the way they do - and
WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE ! If You stop - then others do to !
Lastly = Have a look into the Body Positivity Movement On the Internet - This is a great place to start
Also BBW Groups on Facebook / Twitter / Pinterest -
The Social Networking Sites
They are Fabulous for boosting confidence and getting you too see the Good in who you are .......
NOW LOOK IN THE MIRROR ............
YOUR GORGEOUS !!! REPEAT ........................... !
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