I have stuck with normal dating websites myself - even though I have tried a colossal amount of BBW sites - because - I want a guy to like me for me - and not because i'm fat
Yet on 'normal' websites - i do feel, yet I don't see why, i should put myself in the bracket of having to explain, why and how i am fat - BUT - Yeah OK = I do usually explain - so - That's why i stick with 'normal' websites - I Don't want to be with someone that 'likes' flesh - that - to me - seems a bit weird - I want a guy to be with me - BECAUSE I'M BLOODY LOVELY !!!!
I have been using Dating websites for Over 2 years, AND I'M VERY FUSSY !!! -
In that two years - I have chatted to literally thousands of men - Ranging from 18 - 60
I have given my number to about 25 guys,
I have either phoned or been phoned say 30 times in total ( Obviously many of these were more than once by a few ! )
And have Texted these guys STUPENDOUS amounts !! A lot of them keep up with my texting - but - The ones that don't - DITCH EM !
I have been on about 10 Dates / Coffee Dates - of which - I keep in touch with one guy !
The others guys I met slipped through, even MY RADAR !! - and were NOT what i thought !!
IT'S BLOODY BLOODY TOUGH meeting a decent Fella, and even harder being Fat and Ill at the same time !!
But - OMG - I have had fun - and spoken to lots of interesting people - and if TWO of these guys were nearer, I know I would have coffee dates and meals etc far far more often - as - out of this - I have found TWO very dear and close friends who i cherish and will chat too forever more - so - Somethings are Good ( Mark and Nick - I'm talking about you !! ;) !!! )
and so - In which case - I would say My Number one FAVORITE Dating Website is
www.Badoo.com
Badoo is Dating Focused but - also allows you to chat and flirt and hook up - whatever takes your fancy - It started over ten years ago - and has a HUGE database - and - there lies the problem - Anyone can contact you - and they often do - and in my mind - I can't see the point in chatting to someone in America - as - There's no chance i'm moving !!!
FILTER - ALWAYS MAKE SURE YOU FILTER !!!!
Now - on it you have the Game 'Encounters' where you have to Heart - or Skip - different users - Simple - and easy - If you Skip them - they don't know - so - you don't have to feel bad - BUT if you Heart Them - and They Heart you - then you get a message saying you are a match - and then - have a peek at the profile ( See different blog on Profiles ! ) If you like them - and they tick your boxes - DON'T BE SHY - BE BOLD AND REPLY !
( In my experience - just a short message saying which interests you have the same " I love the part in Shawshank Redemption when ............................. Such a good film - whats your favorite part ? " - or ask a simple yet fun question - for example - " I own a Unicorn - If you could own any creature - what would it be ? ! " - Fun, Thoughtful and makes them realise your interested in them !
- NEVER EVER EVER JUST PUT "HEY HANDSOME" !!! B.O.R.I.N.G !!!! )
That's really it with Badoo - I have payed, before now to get 'boosted' : DON'T BE RUDE : !!
( This basically makes your profile go up in the listings - I could go from 25 messages a day - to ohhhh well over 200 - if you boost at the right time ! - But when i do this I usually get lots of dodgy Turkish people asking me to show parts of my anatomy - Lol - I've even been told i would get paid for this !!!! lololol - No - OBVIOUSLY I HAVE NOT MOTHER !!! )
Then there are Super Powers you can pay for - this allows you to 'see' who likes you - and who has 'Favorited' you - If your a favorite - then - I'd like to think that person would LOVE to chat - LOL - This is not always the case !!
So - My advice - if you like them - Then
DON'T BE SHY - BE BOLD AND REPLY !
( OK OK - Get ready here - Abby has a catch phrase !! Uhhhhh Ohhhhh !! )
So - Badoo - My Favorite !! Mainly because I have found two GOOD friends - and Been on Coffee dates with a handful of others - BUT - It is also the one where you get some REALLY REALLY WEIRD AND PERVERTED PEOPLE .......... ( in my life, this is funny - and always greeted with a smile and a joke !! - BUT - Other less dynamic and shy individuals may well be intimidated with this type of behavior
For example - Unbelievably Rude / Sarcastic / Aggressive / Offhand / Illiterate / Uncivilized / Loutish / Insulting Comments - BUT - Remember- these people DON'T KNOW YOU and have no right to judge - BUT - If you have done nothing wrong - It's our own right to scroll past - You can Unequivocally Understand that this is NOT THE TYPE OF PERSON YOU WISH TO DATE - but - in my case - I usually let rip, and put the fool right ! - Always fun !! )
But in the end - DELETE / BLOCK AND REPORT these Thugs, so someone else does not have to go through what you have .....
OK- My next Favorite site is www.okcupid.com ( They also do a site called www.bbwcupid.com )
This site is FABULOUS if you like to do a bit of psychoanalyst work !! - This is the site where you answer questions - and OMG I do LOVE a good question !!! - Then the site rates your personality and your prospective beloved's personality - and you get graded - ie - " You are a 71% match ! " - SOOO EXCITING !! You would be surprised = LOTS of guys have answered a lot of questions - and - there is a whole abundance to answer - if the bug gets hold !! - Take my word for it - It usually does !! - It seems to be very therapeutic and fun to answer questions about your beliefs and morals! Anyways - this does help to decide who to chat with - as - Why would anyone want to chat with someone with 0% in common - Ohhhhh Opposites attract - Bugger - there goes that theory !!
My Personality Trait came out like this after answering ( OK - Probably more than most people ! )
- 99.9 %Highest match possible
- You’ve answered 1764 questions
You might be…
Average
Average
Mmmmmmm - That makes me sound a fun person to know huh !! - lmao !! But - ( OMG I am actually in hysterics here ) It is kinda right !!! ;) - So - It does work !!
and OKCupid does filter - age / sex / location / ethnic orientation - so thats is good - i just had a peek though - and in my filter tray of 93 messages- The very top one is from France -
" your a f***** hoot and i watch your vid and i love your body and i am french and would come to see you and take you out and see you more " Mixalmixhael Age 33 0% MATCH
Awwwwww - Now - Thats nice - but - COME ON - be serious !! - France !!! and - Why Swear In a first message !!???
This is all for free - so - it's a fun site - and there is usually always people to chat with - but - I have not found one guy willing to come for a COFFEE = AND YES - I DO MEAN JUST COFFEE !!
So - That site is good - but for different reasons i guess !!
www.plentyoffish.com ( also taken as http://uk.pof.com/ ) - Now - there's a funny site - you can meet people near you - and OMG you would seriously think your neck of the woods is full of young virile sex starved Romeo's who will lavish you with gifts, and pay for every piece of entertainment you could possibly wish for and he will be there for YOU to discover and help YOU encounter your every desire and make sure you have the time of your life -
In truth - Your gonna get Boris Johnson in drag complete with no underwear which will be flashed at you at every possible opportunity over a Vimto and REDUCED All Day Breakfast Sandwich from Morrisons on the local park bench, that a passing Jack Russell dog just wee'd on !! I seriously would NOT bother !!!
www.bbwcupid.com - well - That had me out of a lot of money, It kept taking out of my bank - even after i had deleted the link - so not too happy here - and usually i don't let things go - but - with this - they beat me down - lol - and i gave up - and put it down to my stupidity !!
I am still on Cupid - BUT - Not A lot as Paul Daniels says - ( omg yes i did really quote Paul Daniels - shoot me now ! ) But - it's ok, - nothing special - Just be warned !!
But - I really have not had much luck with any of these sites - I think the guys here like their Fat Lady to be Meek and Mild - of which i am neither !! - and in this case - i kinda think that the relationship would be a tad abusive - in some way shape or form - BUT- JUST MY POINT OF VIEW !! .... But - Please be careful ......
The other site i keep up with is www.AYI.com - which is a site linked with Facebook ( so all your likes and interests and groups get shown - BUT - You cannot be found on Facebook Unless whomever takes A LOT of time to put photo to name - and that is in the surmize that the right name is used ! ) - Again - I have had a Few Nutters and a few guys pointing out that I am fat !!! ( * HUGE INTAKE OF BREATH * ) But - I have also had some Genuinely lovely lovely guys - but - Live too far away - so I can't meet them - Such a shame ....
Now - the other sites I have tried and OK - They are alright - but - well - for me - I can't keep up with too many different sites .... so - here are a list that makes it easier for YOU to decide where to go !!
Remember - you get Scammers EVERYWHERE - So BE CAREFUL ! -
NEVER GIVE MONEY / ADDRESS TO ANYONE
DON'T BE SHY - BE BOLD AND REPLY
www.bbwcupid.com/
www.clickcurves.com
www.cuddlydatingfor.me/
www.cuddlyfreeandsingle.co.uk/
www.largerdate.co.uk/
dating.elitesingles.co.uk - High Standards? Professional Dating Is Made For You
www.cuddlydatingfor.me/
www.biggerlover.co.uk/
www.largeandlovely.com/
www.largerdateing.co.uk/
www.datekentsingles.co.uk/BBW
www.plentyofsize.co.uk/big-dating-website
www.clickcurve.com/
hotforcurves.com/
www.curvycatch.com/
www.pof.com/interests/curvy_women.aspx
www.confidentwithcurves.com/
OK - SO - THERE ARE JUST A FEW THAT MAY GET YOU STARTED !! -
PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK - AND HOW YOU GET ON !!
JUST REMEMBER
BE CAREFUL
AND
DON'T BE SHY - BE BOLD AND REPLY !!
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